{"id":1577,"date":"2021-06-04T11:29:11","date_gmt":"2021-06-04T10:29:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nickybosman.nl\/?p=1577"},"modified":"2024-03-31T19:44:48","modified_gmt":"2024-03-31T18:44:48","slug":"the-control-paradox","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.nickybosman.nl\/en\/the-control-paradox\/","title":{"rendered":"The control paradox"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1577\" class=\"elementor elementor-1577\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"has_eae_slider elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-5525ba17 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"5525ba17\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"has_eae_slider elementor-column elementor-col-16 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class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5fdd660 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"5fdd660\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h6 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">exploration<\/h6>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2e4e9cdd elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"2e4e9cdd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">The control paradox<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-44553a3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"44553a3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><\/p><p>rising above, I overstretched.<br \/>overtaxed, overloaded,<br \/>over-ed myself into <br \/>a tightly controlled bundle of body parts.<\/p><p>moderation, I am told, is key<br \/>average, plain temperance.<br \/>a break, to recess<br \/>into myself.<\/p><p>problem is,<br \/>too much moderation, <br \/>defined as self-control,<br \/>tightens those bundles body parts into a knot.<\/p><p>break too hard and<br \/>shatter into fractures,<br \/>hollow and depressed<\/p><p>need to cushion the fall<br \/>by slacking and easing,<br \/>minding my power to<br \/>loosen those bundles out of control.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"has_eae_slider elementor-column elementor-col-16 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-8f0d6c8 elementor-hidden-phone\" data-id=\"8f0d6c8\" data-element_type=\"column\" 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